Never ruin an apology with an excuse.
Benjamin Franklin (via cavum)

This is something I’ve been trying to do the past few months. I noticed when I apologize for something - running late, forgetting something - I usually followed it up with the “why.” But the why isn’t a why to the person I’m apologizing to.

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Life updates

  • Jason and I signed a lease for a two bedroom apartment! We’re going to be really close to the zoo and Balboa park. We’ll really miss Little Italy - and I’m going to miss my walk to work but I’m excited to have a bedroom door for the first time in two years. Under two weeks!
  • Work is still awful. Beyond awful. Both of the junior members on my team are gone and they’re not replacing them so now I’m taking on their work in addition to mine. I wish I could describe how miserable my boss is. He once whistled at me like a dog to get me to come into a conference room and wears his 1995 letter jacket (and brags about being a letter winner) to give a few examples. Work is sucking all the joy out of life. 
  • Jason’s ship is doing work ups to get ready for deployment. It’s been tough not having him around, especially with the move coming up. We usually exchange an email a day and that’s about it. I miss him a lot, and it’s sad that he’s missing day to day things like the goofy stuff the dog does. I can’t imagine doing this with kids
  • Speaking of the dog, she’s been completely different the past few months. What a difference it makes when they turn 2! She’s amazing, and I’m so glad we stuck it out. Holy shit puppies are hard work. 

That’s all I’ve have! I’ll do my best to update more regularly - I know I’ve been MIA lately 

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Milkshake Tuesday

Last night I did something I haven’t done in a really long time. I climbed into bed with a new book, “The Fault in Our Stars,” and read it start to finish.

It was an easy read but a tough story. The main character is 17 and has terminal cancer. I thought the author did a great job of reminding me what it was like to be that age falling for someone for the first time. If I had read the book in high school I probably would have ruined the pages with tears but at this stage in my life I found the scenes with her parents to be some of the most heart wrenching.

It was a great reminder of all the amazing books out there, and I’m really going to make an effort to read more. I think Divergent is next. Any book suggestions?

  1. push yourself to get up before the rest of the world - start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

    2. push yourself to fall asleep earlier - start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

    3. erase processed food from your diet. start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

    4. get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. sit and eat it and do nothing else.

    5. stretch. start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. roll your head. stretch your fingers. stretch everything.

    6. buy a 1L water bottle. start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

    7. buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. no detail is too small.

    8. strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. make your bed in full.

    9. organise your room. fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. light a beautiful candle.

    10. have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. lather your whole body in moisturiser, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

    11. push yourself to go for a walk. take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. bring your dog and observe the dog’s behaviour. realise you can learn from your dog.

    12. message old friends with personal jokes. reminisce. suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. push yourself to follow through.

    14. think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? find a book about it and read it. there is a book about literally everything.

    15. become the person you would ideally fall in love with. let cars merge into your lane when driving. pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. stick your tongue out at babies. compliment people on their cute clothes. challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. then two. then a week. walk with a straight posture. look people in the eye. ask people about their story. talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

    16. lie in the sunshine. daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. open your eyes. take small steps to make it happen for you.
Sixteen Small Steps to Happiness   (via inksandwords)

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Finally got our “guest book” sent to us from Ohio. So much fun reading all the messages!

Gorgeous afternoon to be outside! #westcoastwinter

'There's no need for heartbreak warfare. It's called 'I love you' — 'I love you too'. 'I need more love' — 'You got more love', and you can get through life like that. Shouldn't you just on days where you want more love be like 'I had a bad dream that you were sleeping around, it's really irrational, but just love me extra today'. Why can't we just have this thing where you just say 'Just love me extra today'. If I was with somebody and they said 'Love me extra today', I would love them extra forever.'

John Mayer, Atlanta, 2010. (via lookandlisteng)

Such a simple but powerful idea.

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Funny little family captured in all our glory :)


I watched this for the first time tonight gasping several times. CNN was showing it a second time immediately after, and I’m watching it again.

We used to go to Seaworld as a kid, and I loved it. I won’t be going back and will encourage others to watch the movie and be informed before they go. 

Where do we draw the line though? Do we stop going to zoos? Do we stop owning pets? Why is one bad and not another? 

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- My new job has been slowly killing me. I worked over 80 hours last week, and we had lay offs on Friday. They let go of a girl on my team, and even though we’ve been in touch, I honestly feel like I’m mourning someone. She is talented and smart and worked her ass off for the company. Because this is my third job in a year and I don’t want to look like a flake on my resume, I’m basically stuck unless we’re re stationed.

- Speaking of re stationed. Jason’s ship has been on 5 days or less underways the past few months and they’ll continue through deployment in July. I’ve been doing okay - more or less - without him, but I know the deployment is going to be tough. He took an exam a few weeks ago to get a surgical residency spot next year. Fingers crossed that it happens but if not, we’ll finish his Navy contract and probably move back to the midwest for a residency spot there. At this point we’re open to either option.

- Running hasn’t been happening with my crazy work schedule. We’re running a half marathon on March 9 and it’s going to be ugly. I’ve squeezed in a few runs this week and hope to keep it up until the race. My goal is to survive. 

- We have a bunch of trips planned before Jason leaves: Texas to see my sister, Kentucky Derby with my SND girls, Ohio for some family time/a wedding, Myrtle Beach for a B family trip and Colorado (for Whitney’s WEDDING!)

- Two weekends ago we were at Mammoth Lakes with 9 friends, last weekend I slept and ate pizza, this weekend I’m cleaning for the in laws visit next weekend. Also on the agenda is the eye doctor which I’m pretty excited about - I haven’t bought new glasses (or changed the prescription) since senior year of college so it’s time to treat myself. 

- I LOVE the Olympics. Capital L love. I’m not going to lie though, I’m kind of bummed this go ‘round. Gay marriage controversy, putting down stray dogs, Shaun White pulling out of an event, threats all over the place. This is the first year they haven’t seemed magical. 

- If you’ve made it this far into my post, congratulations! I’ll try to post more regularly so I don’t have these brain dumps :)

When half the bed is empty, these two sneak up in the middle of the night

My new job is killing me softly. Day two of 14 hours and the rest of the week looks the same.